A single Nigerian woman can’t sneeze without someone telling her to get married. Our culture pressures women get married yet we don’t have laws enacted to protect women against domestic violence. An article written by Itoro Eze-Anaba said “1 in 3 Nigerian women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime”..(That’s crazy).
The most alarming is that our culture stigmatizes against victims that’s why a lot of domestic violence cases go unreported. Our culture also sees domestic violence as a “private matter.” A lot of women are suffering in silence because of our crazy, insane culture.
This twisted way of thinking about domestic violence in Nigeria has to go. Awareness about domestic violence needs to start as soon as possible. Domestic violence affects children as well. No child wants to see their mother in pain. If these men(Hulk Hogan wannabe) end up killing their wives who will take care of the children? What child wants to grow up without their mother?
A lot of victims are brainwashed to think that the pain inflicted by their perpetrators is a “sign of love.” I have read that some women have accepted the pain as part of the marriage(chai!! Na wow o!).
If marriage is becoming a battleground for Nigerian women, please Nigerian women it’s time to get a black belt in Karate.
Our culture needs to focus on the perpetrators not the victims. We also need to create a platform where victims can speak up.